Kaleo San Diego Church

As we examine the following scripture that deals directly with common sins of men it is important that we look at these in light of the gospel. There is a temptation to read this and think, I will work to change myself to become these things. But as we understand the gospel, that is that there is no work that we can bring to overcome sin. We must seek God out in prayer. For example, if we struggle with lust trying to fight the sin is already a losing battle. We need to make a Covenant with our eyes (as Job did) and when we are facing temptation cry out in prayer. It is only in our prayer without ceasing that we can, by the Holy Spirit submit ourselves to be patterned after Christ.

Lust

Proverbs 5
18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. 20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress?

 

Proverbs 23
27 For a harlot is a deep pit, And a seductress is a narrow well.

 

Proverbs 27:8 Like a bird that strays from its next is a man who strays from his home.

 

Proverbs 6
23 For the commandment is a lamp, And the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life, 24 To keep you from the evil woman,   From the flattering tongue of a seductress. 25 Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids. 26 For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. 27 Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned?

Discussion/Questions:

We live next to a coast with beaches filled with swim suits that leave next to nothing to our imagination. But this is not the problem. The problem resides in our hearts. Our hearts are wicked. Even in the days of puritans, just a turn of the ankle being shown is all a man needs to be caught in lust. How do we deal with this? Does this mean we shouldn't go to the beach? How much skin is too much in a movie or on tv? What should you do if you are having a problem with porn?

Friendship

Proverbs 24
1 Do not be envious of evil men, Nor desire to be with them; 2 For their heart devises violence, And their lips talk of troublemaking.

 

Proverbs 13
20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.

 

Proverbs 9
6 Forsake foolishness and live, And go in the way of understanding.

 

Proverbs 16

28 A perverse man sows strife, And a whisperer separates the best of friends.

 

Proverbs 22

24 Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, 25 Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul.

 

Proverbs 11
12 He who is devoid of wisdom despises his neighbor, But a man of understanding holds his peace.

 

Proverbs 20
18 Plans are established by counsel; By wise counsel wage war.

 

Proverbs 27
17 As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

 

Proverbs 18
24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

 

Discussion/Questions:

Often we become to be much like the people we spend the most time with. Who are you spending your time with? As you are with non-Christians are you beginning to look more like them, or are they seeing a difference (Christ) in you? What are the criteria we should use in picking friends?

Speaking/Opinions

Proverbs 11
13 A talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.

 

Proverbs 12
18 There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health. 19 The truthful lip shall be established forever, But a lying tongue is but for a moment.

 

Proverbs 12
23 A prudent man conceals knowledge, But the heart of fools proclaims foolishness.

 

Proverbs 17
19 He who loves transgression loves strife, And he who exalts his gate seeks destruction.

 

Proverbs 18
13 He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him.

 

Proverbs 12
22 Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal truthfully are His delight.

 

Proverbs 20
17 Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man, But afterward his mouth will be filled with gravel.

 

Proverbs 26
28 A lying tongue hates those who are crushed by it, And a flattering mouth works ruin.

 

Proverbs 10
11 The mouth of the righteous is a well of life, But violence covers the mouth of the wicked.

 

Proverbs 10
19 In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.

 

Proverbs 10
32 The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, But the mouth of the wicked what is perverse.

 

Proverbs 12
18 There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health.

 

Proverbs 12
25 Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad.

 

Proverbs 13
3 He who guards his mouth preserves his life, But he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction.

 

Proverbs 15
1 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

 

Proverbs 15
7 The lips of the wise disperse knowledge, But the heart of the fool does not do so.

 

Proverbs 16
24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.

 

Proverbs 17
4 An evildoer gives heed to false lips; A liar listens eagerly to a spiteful tongue.

 

Proverbs 17
27 He who has knowledge spares his words, And a man of understanding is of a calm spirit.

 

Proverbs 17
28 Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive.

 

Proverbs 18
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.

 

Proverbs 25
11 A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold, In settings of silver.

 

Discussion/Questions:

From our lips come life and death. How can we balance speaking softly our opinions and being bold in Christ? As we are part of a Church community what do we do when people bring 'concerns' about others? Do we tolerate gossip when the person is speaking poorly of someone else in our church? How do we to deal with this?

Work/Laziness/Money

Proverbs 10
4 He who has a slack hand becomes poor, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. 5 He who gathers in summer is a wise son; He who sleeps in harvest is a son who causes shame.

 

Proverbs 12
11 He who tills his land will be satisfied with bread, But he who follows frivolity is devoid of understanding.

 

Proverbs 12:27 The lazy man does not roast what he took in hunting, But diligence is man's precious possession.

 

Proverbs 13:4 The soul of a lazy man desires, and has nothing; But the soul of the diligent shall be made rich.

 

Proverbs 6
6 Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise,

 

Proverbs 6
9 How long will you slumber, O sluggard?  When will you rise from your sleep? 10 A little sleep, a little slumber, A little folding of the hands to sleep-- 11 So shall your poverty come on you like a prowler, And your need like an armed man.
       

Proverbs 10
4 He who has a slack hand becomes poor, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. 5 He who gathers in summer is a wise son; He who sleeps in harvest is a son who causes shame.

Proverbs 10
26 As vinegar to the teeth and smoke to the eyes, So is the lazy man to those who send him.

 

Proverbs 12:11 He who works his land will have abundant food, but he who chases fantasies lacks judgment.

 

Proverbs 15:27 A greedy man brings trouble to his family…

 

Proverbs 1
16 For their feet run to evil, And they make haste to shed blood. 17 Surely, in vain the net is spread In the sight of any bird; 18 But they lie in wait for their own blood, They lurk secretly for their own lives. 19 So are the ways of everyone who is greedy for gain; It takes away the life of its owners.

 

Proverbs 3
9 Honor the LORD with your possessions, And with the firstfruits of all your increase; 10 So your barns will be filled with plenty, And your vats will overflow with new wine.

 

Proverbs 11
24 There is one who scatters, yet increases more; And there is one who withholds more than is right, But it leads to poverty.

 

Proverbs 28
27 He who gives to the poor will not lack, But he who hides his eyes will have many curses.

 

Proverbs 12
24 The hand of the diligent will rule, But the lazy man will be put to forced labor.

 

Proverbs 12
27 The lazy man does not roast what he took in hunting, But diligence is man's precious possession.

 

Proverbs 18
9 He who is slothful in his work Is a brother to him who is a great destroyer.

 

Proverbs 19
15 Laziness casts one into a deep sleep, And an idle person will suffer hunger.

 

Proverbs 19
24 A lazy man buries his hand in the bowl, And will not so much as bring it to his mouth again.

Discussion/Questions:

As men, we are in Adam in that we have been cursed in our labor. Men often are the last to serve in Churches. How do we prepare men who are single to be a husband who can provide for their wife and children in San Diego where only 16% of people can afford a home? Nationally, the average tithe per week a person is about $13, why if people understand the Gospel and what Christ paid for them are we so unwilling to be cheerful and sacrificial in giving?

Foolishness & Wisdom

Proverbs 1
3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, Justice, judgment, and equity; 4 To give prudence to the simple, To the young man knowledge and discretion-- 5 A wise man will hear and increase learning, And a man of understanding will attain wise counsel,  6 To understand a proverb and an enigma, The words of the wise and their riddles.

 

Proverbs 5
1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding,

 

Proverbs 8
1 Does not wisdom cry out, And understanding lift up her voice?

 

Proverbs 9
6 Forsake foolishness and live, And go in the way of understanding.

 

Proverbs 9
10 "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

 

Proverbs 10
23 To do evil is like sport to a fool, But a man of understanding has wisdom.

 

Proverbs 12
15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But he who heeds counsel is wise. 16 A fool's wrath is known at once, But a prudent man covers shame.

 

Proverbs 12
23 A prudent man conceals knowledge, But the heart of fools proclaims foolishness.

Proverbs 13
16 Every prudent man acts with knowledge, But a fool lays open his folly.

 

Proverbs 13
20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.

 

Proverbs 14
16 A wise man fears and departs from evil, But a fool rages and is self-confident.

 

Proverbs 15
14 The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge, But the mouth of fools feeds on foolishness.

 

Proverbs 17
10 Rebuke is more effective for a wise man Than a hundred blows on a fool.

 

Proverbs 17
16 Why is there in the hand of a fool the purchase price of wisdom, Since he has no heart for it?

 

Proverbs 17
28 Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive.

 

Proverbs 18
2 A fool has no delight in understanding, But in expressing his own heart.

 

Proverbs 19
1 Better is the poor who walks in his integrity Than one who is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.

Discussion/Questions:

Often it is those who are foolish are the ones to speak the loudest, giving their opinions, while those who know wisdom by diligent study of God's Word are silent. If someone is in our church promoting worldly wisdom that is contradictory to scripture, how do you handle this? What about a non-christian at work? How can we seek after practical wisdom?

Pride & Humility

Proverbs 11
2 When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

 

Proverbs 16
19 Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud.

 

Proverbs 20
6 Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, But who can find a faithful man?

 

Proverbs 25
27 It is not good to eat much honey; So to seek one's own glory is not glory.

 

Proverbs 29
23 A man's pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor.

 

Proverbs 8
13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil; Pride and arrogance and the evil way And the perverse mouth I hate.

 

Proverbs 13
10 By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom.

 

Proverbs 15
25 The LORD will destroy the house of the proud, But He will establish the boundary of the widow.

 

Discussion/Questions:

How would you define pride? As Christians, if we understand the Gospel, we should be the most humble, recongnizing our sin before God. Unfortunately, we are often those who think they are 'better' than those who are not in Christ. We smugly look at non-Christians and point out in our hearts that we are better than these people. (Read example from p.165 Shepherding a Child's Heart)

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